How many ladies out there have heard some of the following while walking?
Say girl, let me holla at you!
Psst, hey Shorty come here!
*Car honking* and bunch of random dudes staring out the vehicle like a pack of hyenas
To most of you, this is nothing new and unfortunately the likely response if you ignore the cat calls is on the line of, “Well f*ck you then, b*tch! You ain’t cute no way, stank ass hoe!” As a man, I must say that I apologize for this ladies, but let me give you a little insight into what I like to call The Chivalrous N*gga.
Most of the dudes who approach women like this grew up in a certain environment. First off, all men regardless of race are taught, whether subliminally or consciously, that your manhood is defined by the amount of women you have. This has been the norm since the beginning of time and you even see it in the animal kingdom. Now add that to what us negros see when we come up, rappers treating women any kind of way and ladies responding positively. Or the dudes in the hood with the fancy cars and rims pulling all the bad b*tches and treating them like crap…but the girls keep coming. This type of behavior sticks in a young kid’s head so when they grow up posted on the corner with their boys and a fine woman walks by, out come the cat calls. Now the interesting thing about this is that in their minds they are being polite, hence why when a young lady doesn’t respond, she’s a stuck up b*tch. This is because in his eyes, he approached her correctly. Now there are a couple of reasons for this thinking.
1. He has never seen any man approach a woman in any other way and where he grew up all the girls responded so how can you blame him if this is all he knows?
2. He’s with his boys and how would he look acting all polite and sh*t? Or even if he’s not around his boys, he’s a thug n*gga till the death and this is as polite as it gets.
This may have worked with the girls around the hood, but when he steps out of his element, that is when he starts to fail. The majority of women don’t respond to that BS. Getting a woman’s attention by noting her skin tone or just the generic “let me holla at you,” is not the right way to go. It also doesn’t help that the guys have their boxers showing while they are sagging their skinny jeans. There may be a misconception that if they don’t approach a woman this way, then they lack confidence. I’m all for confidence, but there is a certain way to go about it. I’d be willing to put money down that a guy would at least get a cordial response from a lady if he came correct. Now I’m not saying that he’ll get her number, but she’ll at least speak, and nicely at that. On the flip side, most of these same dudes who approach a woman any kind of way would feel upset if another guy talked to their sister like that. But oddly enough, it’s alright for them to speak to women as they so choose. With that, what are your thoughts on the way guys approach women?